The Importance of Touch
The other day, I overdid it. After working long days, I was so excited to hit my Saturday morning yoga class, then take a beach walk on Saturday and then a hike on Sunday. Saturday, I stretched out my legs, enjoyed the detoxing twists and backbends and felt the delicious tightness of sunburned shoulders (yes, terrible I know!). Sunday, I lathered up, put on my hat (like a good girl this time) and hiked the amazing Torrey Pines climb.
All in all, pretty relaxing forms of exercise. But for some reason my back rebelled and decided to tweak on Sunday night. Possibly out of sympathy for my hiking partner, Bec, since her back has been tight. Who knows, but after an agonizing 8 hours sitting at my desk on Monday, I knew it was time for some good, deep tissue, therapeutic massage! So I called my one of my favorite places in the world, Bergamot Spa and begged for an appointment with Amanda, arguably some of the best hands in the business!
Bergamot is right in Leucadia and if you drive to quickly down Vulcan, you’ll speed right by it. It’s like walking into a fairytale. One minute you are on a gravel driveway and the next, you step over the entrance and are transported through the rabbit hole into a little oasis with Balinese huts paired with desert palms, a lily pond and Moroccan lanterns. It’s very low key and the prices are really reasonable for the love and care you get. Amanda gave me the best massage I’d had in a long time. And it’s amazing how vibrant and energized I feel! We all workout out and strive to keep in shape, we log long hours at hour jobs and we forget how necessary it is to give your body healing recovery.
It’s funny that when you are at your busiest, most stressed or when finances tighten, that body care is typically the first thing to go. We cut back on something like a massage saying it’s a luxury. But our bodies are the most important things we’ve got so when times get a little rough, it’s the thing we need most! How ironic and I’m the guiltiest culprit. My girlfriend, Renee, told me about the six second hug. You should hug everyone for a minimum of six seconds to get the positive effects of the endorphins coursing through the body. Being a huge hugger, I figured I was probably already doing this. Nope! Turns out the average hug is about 2-3 seconds. So I enlisted M about 2 months ago and now we hold it for at least 6. What’s amazing is that you do feel the difference and it feels amazing. Who among us doesn’t have time to hug someone for six seconds? Try it, you’ll be amazed!
It makes me sad that so many people go without daily human physical contact. We know the world in general has become disconnected. We look to Instagram, Facebook, TV etc for our virtual relationships and the physical face time takes a back seat. More and more yoga teachers shy away from hands on adjustments. And that is really too bad because we need it, we crave it and a lot of us don’t realize how little touch we give/receive on a daily basis!
I went to my niece’s 4 year old birthday on Sunday and those kids know how to party. Hugs, hand holding, kisses, cuddling up on the tire swing. No one worried about what they looked like or who was kissing who. It was good, clean affection, laughter and fun.
If you can, book a massage! Can’t afford it? I totally get it. But how many lattes could you cut out to save up $100? It can be done! Still can’t afford it, okay. Hugs are free, even six second ones. At the very least, try to cram in 1-2 of those a day. It’ll make a difference, I promise!!!