Sunshine Kir

On a daily quest for the eternal sunshine!

Month: December, 2013

Glass Half Full

My nickname from a lot of friends is ‘sunshine’ (hence the blog name). Overall, I would agree I have a sunny disposition and am a pretty happy person. But I’m definitely lumped in with the group of folks who have a tendency to brace ourselves for the worst case scenario and worry more than is necessary. How do you know if you’re one of us? Think about the number of times have you hoped for the best, but prepared for the worst. If it’s more than twice a week, welcome to the club my friend!

As I mentioned in my last post, I tend to spend the last week of the year taking a mental inventory of what I’m leaving behind in 2013 and what I’m taking with me to 2014. (or at least going to attempt to leave behind) This year I’m going big!

Leaving:

  • Worry and guilt. They go hand and hand and are equally useless emotions. I’m bored with you both. See you later
  • Complaining. It’s my chocolate – overall, a bad habit that only gets worse and multiplies if I indulge in it
  • Commiseration. The kissing cousin to complaining. Sorry no more of this negativity in 2014 my friends
  • Criticism. This world is hard enough. I’ll genuinely attempt to curtail my critical mind
  • Self doubt. In the words of Stuart Smalley, I’m good enough, I’m smart enough…and that’s going to have to be enough
  • Credit card purchases. I have an aggressive plan for you, Visa. Look out!

Keeping:

  • Gratitude. Action: each week I’m writing down 5 things I’m grateful for in the following categories:  love, work, personal
  • Writing. Action: write a blog post or article every week no matter what
  • Drawing. Action: bought a sketchpad and sharpened the charcoal pencils
  • Mind/Body Balance. Action: yoga 2x a week (groupon purchased), run 3x a week, meditation 1x a week (at least)
  • Greens glorious greens. Action: 4 cleanses a year. Daily organic, green intake
  • Proactive problem solving. Action: instead of the C’s listed above, I’ll take proactive action to change what’s not working
  • Self reliance. I’m not waiting for anyone else to make me happy or to make something work. I’m going to use every law of attraction method I’ve learned (including the occasional therapy session) to activate what I want
Love it. No excuses!

Love it. No excuses!

Lofty goals and dreams here we come. And no more cynicism about goal setting. If you don’t throw your hat in the ring and try, how will you ever succeed at anything? So I’m going all in. And it’s in writing and out into the universe to keep myself accountable. By all means call me out if you see me slacking.♥

Good luck to be our best selves and have fun in 2014!!!

Good luck to us all and may we be our best selves and have fun in 2014!!!

Goals Achieved? Some Pretty Proud Moments…

With a few days left in 2013, I wanted to take a minute to reflect on some of my finest accomplishments from the year. All in all, 2013 has been a huge year of growth for me. I have accomplished a lot and see a fair amount of change. Not all of it rolled out the way I expected, but overall, looking back, I’d say it was a damn good year. Here are some of my proud little moments ♥

I'm quite proud of some of these

I’m quite proud of some of these…

Some things are huge, some fun,  some small and some mundane. Looking back, the overarching theme for me in 2013 was facing things head on. This has never been easy for me. I’d much rather glide along and not ruffle feathers or make waves. But that way of living simply wasn’t working. It took its toll on my nervous system and some of my relationships. So I started being more honest with myself on what I needed to be happy. And then I took a lot of action. Sometimes (often) it was ungraceful and clumsy, but for the most part, I felt the positive effects of being clear with my needs and speaking my mind.

I still feel stress, no question. But I try to really examine it and break it down to get to the root cause. (Hint: it’s fear!!!)  Then I go back to the basics. What can I do today? If I can’t fix something, I can watch a sunset, go for a run, ask for an extra hug from M and do little things to add to my overall well-being. I will be leaving certain things behind in 2013, but I’m determined to carry forward the good and the lessons from this year.

Here’s to 2013! xxoo

Meditation Resolution

Are you setting up your goals and resolutions for the New Year? Or in need of a little tune up now? Since I haven’t been as diligent with my workout routine, I’ve been ramping up my meditation. Meditation is an incredible stress neutralizer. I’ve been playing with a classic meditation before bed and/or in the morning as I’m waking up.

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It’s not always realistic to find a quiet space, light a candle and sit on a meditation cushion. If you can, amazing. If you can’t, I think anywhere will do and any amount of time you can give is leaps and bounds better than not doing it at all. Chopra.com is a great resource if you want to find some meditation techniques.

I’ve been doing the So Hum meditation. The So (I am) Hum (that) meditation is simple, but powerful. It uses the breath and the repetition of a mantra to quiet the mind and relax the body. According to Chopra, “This meditation will help take your awareness from a state of constriction to a state of expanded consciousness.” The full process can be found here. The following is my modified version:

    1. Start where you are. Ideally in a quiet place. (Sometimes I do this when I get into bed and am heading off to sleep or when I wake up in the morning and am still lying in bed b/c that’s when I remember to do it)
    2. Close your eyes and take a few moments to observe the inflow and outflow of your breath
    3. Now take a slow, deep breath through your nose, while thinking or silently repeating the word So
    4. Then slowly exhale through your nose while silently repeating the word Hum. Continue to allow your breath to flow easily, silently repeating So . . . Hum . . .with each inflow and outflow of the breath. Whenever your attention drifts to thoughts in your mind, sounds in the environment, or sensations in your body, gently return to your breath, silently repeating So . . . Hum
    5. The Chopra Center recommends you do this process for 20 to 30 minutes.  Sometimes I can do 5, 10 or 15 minutes. I try not to get to fixated on the duration. I do what I can and that’s good enough

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At the Chopra Center there is only one meditation rule: “Never rush to or from meditation. Just allow the peace and calm to soak into your body, and you will carry a little bit of this peace and calm with you as you move into the activities of your day.” I love this! It takes the pressure off and encourages you to be peaceful as you transition back into your day or off into dreamland.  For me, even 5 minutes of meditation calms me. I feel clear and reset. After a week of consistent practice, I can really feel the difference in overall reactions and attitude.

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Learn more about meditation here. Throw out the rules. Do what you can. If someone says you shouldn’t meditate in bed or should spend at least 25 minutes in meditation, that’s fine for them (and maybe you). But if it’s the difference between not doing it all or spending 2 minutes, the 2 minutes is better than nothing! ♥