Sunshine Kir

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Category: To Be Transported

Networking At Its Best – Not Rocket Science

I was going to come up with a clever title for this, but in the end I think straight forward is best. I’ve been getting asked these questions for years…

How do you know so many people? How do you maintain so many great relationships? What can I do to be a good networker? My personal opinion…master the basic forms of courtesy and follow up. Do this and people will love you for it.

Everyone needs a little help now and then...

Everyone needs a little help now and then…

The world is a fast-paced, crazy place and everyone is multi-tasked to the minute.  We’re all a little self important and consumed with what’s on our respective plates. In order to be effective building relationships, make it about them.

Here are some simple basics that work! The advanced course may cost you 🙂

  • Come prepared. Do your homework and have a little background information on the person you’re meeting.
  • Know your goal. Is it gaining more contacts, business advice, feedback on a product? If you’re not clear, it won’t be an effective use of that person’s time and you won’t get what you need.
  • Honor the person’s time. Set a start/end time so they know how much time to block out for you. If you’re having a great meeting and it goes over, fantastic.
  • Send thank you emails. After every meeting or networking opportunity, send a quick email thanking the person for his/her time.  Do this within 24 hours.
  • Always follow up. Especially if you’re the one who asked for something.
  • Erase “busy” from your vocabulary. Everyone is busy. Never use “being busy” as an excuse for not being in touch or delayed in your response.
  • Be on time. If you’re running late, let your date know at least 15 minutes in advance. Traffic is not an excuse. Always give yourself extra time just in case.
  • Give someone your full attention when you’re talking to him/her. Put away your phone.
  • Be nice to the assistants, front of house staff and interns. They’re the ones doing to organizing and calendar booking in the world.
  • Spell the person’s name right. Not sure? It’s ok to ask. If you can’t get the name right, what else will you miss?
  • Confirm your meeting the night before. That way the person knows for sure you’ll be there and doesn’t have to follow up with you.

Not rocket science right? But I’m amazed at how often people miss the simple steps.  Here’s a perfect example of what not to do…happened to me last week. I promise I’m not making this up!

I met someone as a favor to a friend to listen to his marketing strategy for a clothing launch. We’d texted back and forth (him typing Kristen and Kriston) and after a few attempts, confirmed a day/time. He texted me when he was supposed to be there and said, “traffic is terrible, I’m so sorry”.  He was 45 minutes late. Normally, I would’ve left, but I had work to do so I stayed at the café because it was conveniently equipped w/WiFi.

During the meeting, he told me his story and what they were going to do with the business launch. That’s great, but it didn’t help him any. He already knows his business. When I asked him what questions he had for me he didn’t really have any because he hadn’t prepared ahead of time.  In essence, he wasn’t clear why we were meeting. It was a waste of time for both of us.

A day later, he sent a thank you email that included a request for someone’s contact info I had mentioned in the meeting. Points for the thank you, but when I responded with the contact info, there was no response or acknowledgement of that favor. Still none to date.

How likely would I be to offer assistance to this person again? And how likely am I to recommend him to my contact?  The answer to both questions…not very likely. Do not be this person.

In summary, treat someone how you want to be treated. Check your ego. Show up on time. Give the person your full attention. Know your end goal. Be prepared and follow up promptly. Do this and people will want to work with you. They will remember you fondly as someone who is reliable and on top of your game.

Pretty much sums it up. Value & quality...

Pretty much sums it up. Value & quality…

Now off you go you smart, charming, attentive thing you…Best of luck and happy networking!

Toes Tell A Story…

Toes tell a story…otherwise known as guess what I did this weekend by checking out these random pictures of my toes in various places…

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Beachy toes are happy toes. I cannot stress this enough!

M isn’t a big picture taker so I learned early on if I want the moment captured, it’s usually on me to capture it. This explains why my phone is filled with gorgeous beach views, pics of M looking handsome (or annoyed) and lots and lots and lots of shots of my toes in various shades of polish!

Morning coffee plus the final days of the Tour

Morning coffee plus the final days of the Tour

I’ve come to love these pics because they are fun little queues that remind me what I was doing on a given day. I pick up on things that others don’t in these shots. For instance, this is my FAVORITE coffee mug and there’s M in his normal morning spot where we wake up, have our yummy coffee and start the day off together on the weekend. I love that.

And I repeat,

And I repeat, beachy toes are happy toes.

Something else I discovered as I’m reviewed the feet selflies? I wear these cut-offs a lot. They are the real deal, homemade kind. You know the ones that were mediocre as jeans, but became the super star of your summer wardrobe once the scissors came out and they were washed and dryed to frayed perfection? Yeah, those. I must confess, I live in these and really do wear them almost daily. (Note both pictures above and the one below)

Backyard bliss

Backyard bliss

My Dad was in town this weekend. His favorite thing to do after a busy work week w/travel is to hang out on our backyard couch and read. Fine by us. Just add a Hinano, some John Le Carre, pipe the music through the speakers and, voila, it’s a party – albeit, a mellow one.

Happy Feet - proud Sanuk product testing!!!

Happy Feet – proud Sanuk product testing!!!

For a brief 35-40 minutes the sun came out in the backyard! And to prove it, this picture came into being. Plus I was trying to illustrate to a girlfriend how happy I was about my new Sanuk flip flops by texting her this photo.

Backing up a bit, my friend, Trish, is ridiculously talented and may have one of the coolest jobs out there. (Global Product Director for Sanuk – are you kidding?) She entrusted me with the incredibly important job of product testing some new Sanuk‘s for the weekend. It’s a tough job, but someone’s got to do it…Verdict? They have gorgeous green straps, fit my size 8 feet perfectly and were so. dang. comfy. Odds are I may be pairing them with my trusty cut-offs a lot. And yes, cut-offs are featured, just off screen.

Boots for VGs!

Boots for VGs!

No, I normally don’t photograph my feet at VGs on a Saturday night. But we were in line, carefully selecting donut choices and my friend asked if I went with the boot or wedge option for my Saturday night sushi date. Rather than text out the details, I snapped a shot and there you have it, the “behind the scenes” backstory. Bored yet? Okay, sorry, I’ll wrap this up!

As the weekend wound down...sunset at the reef

As the weekend wound down…sunset at the reef in the party pants

Sunday late afternoon, I dropped my Dad at the airport with big hugs and excited planning for Christmas. I then made the (normally 25 minute) trek North from the airport back home in a whopping 55 minutes of “race back to LA” traffic. Ugh. I called M on the way and told him to get his board ready so we could high tail it to the reef to enjoy the final hour of Sunday daylight. I threw on my favorite Billabong party pants, grabbed my book and a blanket and we were off. Sunday nights at the beach are magic. People head home to do their thing and you get the water and the beach pretty much to yourself. M went for a surf and I watched the sky turn pink and melted into the sand. It was a pretty cloudy sunset, but seriously no complaints here.

So there you have it! My weekend in pictures as told by my toes. Here’s one last parting shot from a while back. This was a happy lunch hour in May. If it’s sunny, this shot will be recreated at some point this week. Hope your Monday was nothing short of amazing!!! xxoo

Lunch break overlooking the sea. Need to recreate this again soon!

Lunch break overlooking the sea. Need to recreate this again soon!

Sign of a Good Weekend…

It’s a sign of a good weekend when your hair is salty and crunchy, your pedicure is ruined and most of the bikinis in your current rotation are in various stages of dampness. My eyes are a bit red, so are my shoulders and I have that blissful, worn-out feeling that comes with lots of beach runs, beach paddles, beach reading and beach friend time.

The Sign of a Good Beach Weekend...what's in your beach bag?

The Sign of a Good Beach Weekend…what’s in your beach bag?

This is my beach bag after 4 days of dedicated beach time. When I poured out the contents, it looked a little more like this…

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Pretty much most of my favorite things…samudra, bikinis, spf, shades, kindle, truckers

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Now slightly more organized I also see miss kitty lip balm, pareos, kleen canteen, hair ties & lots of sand!

If I listed it out…my favorite bikinis by Vix, Mikoh, L*Space and Letarte. Ocean Potion SPF (super affordable and gets a good grade on non-toxic site), Samudra bag, Sugar lip balm. New Oakley shades, Trucker hats (both gifts from gfs from HI) Pretty much most of my favorite things…

So the four day weekend went a little something like this. Get up. Coffee + Tour de France + check emails. Do some work. Go for a run/paddle. Do a bit more work. Wait for sun to come out. Pack picnic. Head to beach. SUP, read, friend-catch-up. Leave beach. Have a beer. Take a nap. Go to dinner. Sleep the sleep of the sun-soaked sea angels. Repeat. Heavenly. Couldn’t ask for better.

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Basecamp at Swamis w/favorite towels & trusty Kindle

Cooler + havis. Does this count as work if we post it to Beaming's Instagram?

Cooler + havis = semi-artsy shot for Beaming’s Instagram while beaching…

Immediately sucked in to Dan Brown's new Inferno - perfect beach read

Immediately sucked in to Dan Brown’s new Inferno – perfect beach read…usually not so serious

The sun was a bit temperamental this weekend. But it was warm and humid by North County SD standards so the beach still felt great. This is how it goes…you look outside, it’s cloudy, you go on with what you are doing. About 15 minutes later, you do it again. Repeat until you see this…

Blue, blue, blue...let's go!

Blue, blue, blue…let’s go!

The blue sky sighting followed by a text saying, “I spy blue! Cu at Swamis” (insert emojis of sun, hand clap and dancing girl). On a side note, yes our gorgeous canary palm is overdue for a trim. Next weekend…

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Not even sure what day this was. But it sure is pretty!

Yay, Roxy Outdoor Fitness!!!

Yay, Roxy Outdoor Fitness!!!

Also in the mix of the four day weekend was sushi, VGs donuts, a shortie wetsuit purchase (See pic above. I’ve been wanting this so much), bonfire sitting, firework watching (alas the pics didn’t turn out) and quality time with family and friends. The grand finale…M’s signature homemade artisan pizza w/arugula, asparagus, tomato, & proscuitto (yep, the crust is from scratch too!) And much, much gratitude to live in arguably the prettiest part of the best country ever. Thank you every darn day for my life and my freedom. Hope you had a fabulous 4th of July weekend too!♥